To be or not to be… a parent
Today was an interesting day. I met and talk with two different friends and two different times. One with newly made baby (?) and one without but the topic we talked about was the same – kid.
I believe it it human instinct to live and to give life. It is part of our function, of our existence to recreate and passing on bits of ourselves. Nature even kind enough to make the process fun (opp..), before waged the finger to us not to over do it by introduced HIV (opp..opp).
But not many people of my generation are having kids or wanting to have kids. Why?
I thought about this long and hard – is it because we study longer, work harder, and enjoy the social freedom that our parents never had? Or is it simply our hesitation to do so.
A few people that I spoke to who are childless or intend to be, said they do not want their kids to grow up in the society that are such that we living in – for different reason – Internet, violent, respect, to list it would be just too long. It can simply conclude that they fear the future for their to-be-(made)-child.
A few other who has kids or want to have said, it no point analysing. “Just do it” (Nike style!) and make the best of what we’ve got.
I believe at the end it come down to personal choice. No one should be imposed up on to have or not to have kids. There are four other things I believe in general that may or may not applied to this issue (of course, I do think they do):
1. The world will keep going – whatever choice we made. We will be part of it no matter which role we choose to be.
2. We know the trend where the world is going but it too, will continue to change. Everything, including the trends is impermanence.
3. Cause and effect are not related or proportionate – some kids with so call good up bringing end up ruin lives of million other, some kids with so called poor up bringing ended up improve lives of million of other.
4. Our happiness should and must not depend on other.
..Life is a beautiful thing, innit?